Grief is the Gateway

As you read this I want you to envision yourself being enveloped in the warm embrace of your favorite relative or your partner or anyone who represents a welcoming and safe spirit.

If you are a person who doesn’t like hugs, then I want you to picture yourself doing whatever makes you feel safe and supported.  We all could use some comfort and reassurance right now. There is a lot of change happening and as much as we want to feel the relief of 2017 coming in to save us, we still have some work to do.

I don’t have a crystal ball or a magic mirror that tells the future, so I cannot tell you if things are going to get better or not.  Besides, “better” and “worse” are very relative terms these days.

For us here in the United States, we are preparing for the inauguration of the 45th president of the country. For better or for worse, whether you love him or hate him, he’s here and he’s bringing his brand new version of presidential leadership with him.

Even as the world waits to see what will happen under this new leadership, there are people who don’t have the luxury of entering into philosophical and ideological debates about his style. They will not be amusing themselves with witty quips about orange skin or a penchant for spelling mistakes.

They will be preoccupied with surviving as they have been living in the shadows and margins of this nation. For others of us, our attention will be focused on whether or not we will be joining them.

There is a time for everything,
    and a season for every activity under the heavens – Ecclesiastes 3:1


There is an opportunity here and if we fall too much into fear based thinking, blind rage, depression, and numbing ourselves, we will miss it.

Whether it’s the uncertainty of a new president, the sudden flood of celebrity deaths or even the personal losses we have experienced within the quiet of our lives we have to feel the weight of these things without trying to escape.

This is where we need a community. A tribe. A group of people who are able to receive the depths of our despair, anger, and pain without asking us to deny it, swallow it, or ignore it.

We have the opportunity to strengthen our connections – families, friends, and even coworkers. We have the opportunity to come out of hiding and isolation and create true community.

How are you coping with all the changes that are taking place?




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